I had no idea what I wanted to do when I  was in year 11. My Mum kept asking me and I kept fobbing her off as I  really didn’t know and even discussing it made me feel anxious. I realise now that probably thinking it through a little more often might have helped, but that that time career counsellors at school were relatively untrained and I the one I eventually saw at University said ” Oh you are doing an Arts degree, you will be fine ” Yep- that is  EXACTLY what he said !

I have a teen going through this right now  She is not a particularly academic child so that makes it harder ! And she hates school ! We have had a talk about career path and she says she feels very stressed because everyone at school seems to be obsessed with decision making and she just has no ideas for her own pathway. It seems that not much has changed since I was in high school, except for the fact that teenagers today have a larger social net and more life experiences so their frame of reference is a little  wider cast than mine  ever was. They also get a little more exposure to work experience through their school too.

Teenagers today experience increased academic pressure and career anxiety, especially when it comes to choosing subjects and thinking about future pathways. Many high school students feel overwhelmed by expectations, social comparison, and uncertainty about what career options suit their strengths. This is where professional career counselling for teenagers can make a huge difference. With expert guidance, teens gain clarity about their skills, interests and personality type, helping them understand realistic career pathways without feeling judged or rushed. Structured career guidance also reduces stress, builds confidence, and helps teens make informed decisions based on self-awareness rather than fear or pressure.

Parents often struggle to support their child through this stage, because the modern world of work has changed so dramatically. There are more choices, new industries, and many non-traditional education routes that didn’t exist years ago. Career coaches who specialise in adolescent development can help families navigate this confusion. They provide personalised advice, up-to-date information on university and vocational pathways, and strategies to reduce the emotional overwhelm teenagers often feel. When teens understand that careers can evolve over time and that there is no single “perfect” choice, their stress reduces significantly, allowing them to explore options with curiosity rather than panic.

My daughter seems to think that she must decide right  now, and it freaks her out !  I tell her that many people don’t know for years what they want to be when they grow up and some like my husband still struggle .  Still this is probably little consolation when you feel the pressure at school and  see friend who are lucky enough to already know ( boy they really use to pee me off ! )  Nobody can really tell you what you should choose as a career, and parents need to be sounding boards and  offer guidance but never push their own unfulfilled ambitions through their kids.  You must always follow your heart   . Many kids fear that if they make a decision now then they are bound by that come hell or high water for the rest of their lives. But they are not are they ? You and  I know that education can never be taken away from you, and all  learning blocks build to your next platform, wherever you start .  Little did I  know that a pedestrian Arts Degree 30 years ago would be the fast track to another calling. Who’d have thunk it !

 

So what did I  tell  my Princess Peach ?

My advice to her was this :

people transition through many careers nowadays . It is normal to have 2or 3 maybe even more careers through your entire career trajectory and even more jobs !

I went from an Arts degree, to TV , to theatre , to teaching to counsellor ! All jobs have utilised part of my potential abilities . Loved them all and felt they all were developing my skills . Each job was a lesson in what I was good at and what I was not ! It also allowed me to understand that I get bored very easily, so jobs with new challenges  was going to be my ongoing theme in life, despite the uncertainty and instability  that is its  necessary trade off.

I said to her,  rather than be paralysed by not knowing, and do nothing , pick something that you are good at and enjoy . If you are good at it but hate it – it’s a waste of your time .

 

How do you know what you like at 15, 16, 17 ?

Ask  your child this : Tell me something that you are doing where you forget about time ? Where you go ” Oh God I need to stop this and go do…”

This is when they are tapping into their authentic self . They  stops clock watching and is in their ” flow ” . It could be tennis , reading, writing , video games , drawing , painting , cooking , watching the news , talking to people about their feelings , organising social events , web site design , whatever it is ! Then extrapolate from that a possible career path . I would never advice anyone concentrate on a subject they are fab at but don’t enjoy . They will get sick of it .My daughter was going to do Maths in year 12 . I said ” why on earth would you do maths !, you hate it and you don’t get good marks in it” . She looked at me firstly as if I  was criticising her , then it dawned on her what I was saying and she said ” Bloody hell , no frigging Maths how good is that ?” as if  she really got it for the first time that she could let the bain of her life go ! and I  said , ” if you go into business buy a calculator  or better still employ your Nana ; she IS an accountant “. She laughed.

I had a student I was counselling who said he didn’t know what to focus on at school , his dad wants him to have a ” great career ” I said what do you find fun at school , he said languages and web coding and reading . There it is ! He started teaching himself Chinese online , stepped up his reading and did some web coding at home .

Starting a degree in something , a vocational course in something -and then either switching when they know what they want to do and get credit or finish the degree and build upon it .

Always always choose something that interests you rather than what you are good at , if it’s both, bonus ! Career choice is an ongoing , organic , unfolding aspect of life , encourage our child to see it as this rather than a decision made and kept forever .

Need career guidance for your teenager ? Call me I  can help .

Teenagers today face enormous pressure — school demands, social stress, friendship issues, identity challenges, and anxiety about their future. As a Logan counsellor for teenagers, Sian Pryce provides a safe, warm, and non-judgemental space where teens can talk openly and feel genuinely understood.

Sian specialises in teen mental health support, helping young people manage anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, school stress, friendship problems, emotional regulation, and career confusion. Using evidence-based therapy and a strengths-focused approach, she helps teens build resilience, improve communication, and develop healthy coping strategies.

Parents trust Sian because she offers guidance that is practical, compassionate, and deeply rooted in understanding adolescent development. Whether your teenager is struggling with behaviour issues, motivation, confidence, or decision-making, Sian helps them gain clarity and confidence so they can move forward with purpose.

If your teen needs support, a calm voice, or someone who truly “gets it,” Sian Pryce is here to help.