Its not doing it for me any more …. the price is too high .
Giving up weed can be very tough . When you have relied on its power to calm, relax and /or motivate you then understanding the difficulty that occurs when there is now a gap in your ability to cope with life can be daunting.
When a friend, family member or partner wants to regain motivation after giving up cannabis, it’s important to explore their personal goals, challenges, and mindset. We are all motivated by emotions not by logic or rationale . Unless you see a reason to quit that is advantageous and emotionally satisfying than you are unlikely to do so.
I had a client who wanted to give up as he knew that his partner did not want him to smoke as it stopped the connection and communication between them.
He found that his ability to express himself especially when she needed support and loving interactions was curtailed. His goal and currency was to keep his partner as he loved her enormously . Great reason to give up ! He wanted a tablet her could take that would give him the same motivation to get all of his tinkering jobs done around the home. Unfortunately , I said , there is no magic pill , if there was I’d be a multimillionaire !
Here are some things that you can say to a person who wants to give up, to help them explore their needs and find a reason and an effective driver to put that joint down and get cracking
Here are some thoughtful questions categorized to guide the conversation effectively:
- Understanding Their Journey
- “What made you decide to quit cannabis?”
- “How has your life changed since you stopped using it?”
- “What challenges have you faced in staying away from it?”
- Exploring Motivation & Goals
- “What are some things you used to enjoy but lost motivation for?”
- “What new or old goals would you like to focus on now?”
- “If you could picture yourself six months from now, what would success look like?”
- Identifying Roadblocks
- “What do you feel is holding you back from feeling motivated?”
- “Are there any habits or thoughts that seem to drain your energy?”
- “What has helped you stay on track so far?”
- Strengths & Self-Discovery
- “What personal strengths helped you quit cannabis?”
- “What are some things you’ve accomplished that you’re proud of?”
- “What activities make you feel good about yourself?”
- Daily Routines & Energy Management
- “What does your daily routine look like right now?”
- “Are there small changes you can make to boost your energy and focus?”
- “How is your sleep, diet, and exercise affecting your motivation?”
- Building a Support System
- “Who in your life supports your decision to quit?”
- “Do you have people or communities that inspire or uplift you?”
- “Would accountability or mentorship help you stay motivated?”
- Overcoming Setbacks & Planning Ahead
- “What would you do if you felt the urge to use again?”
- “How do you handle stress or boredom without cannabis?”
- “What rewards or milestones can you set for yourself to stay motivated?”
These questions help the loved one explore their mindset, strengths, and practical steps to rebuild motivation.
It takes time and effort to give up something that was once so important to a person’s ability to cope with their world. You never get rid of a habit ; you replace it with something else. It’s a process and will need patience and commitment . Believing you can get there is a powerful motivator even when the going gets tough and you feel you have made minimal progress.
So what ever your stage of quitting , remember never ever give up ! You are so worth it !
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