The Mum rang me in tears . She had just told her 19-year-old daughter that she had to move out. It tore the Mum apart ,but for her own sanity which was slowly eroding away, she had to do it . Knowing that, at the same time , this young…
Read MoreMy gorgeous funny and sweet client sat in front of me , her eyes wet with tears and her head in her hands . “ I must be a bad person she said , “ I think the vilest thoughts , bestiality , sex with children and violence. They are so horrible and despicable…
Read MoreI’m sitting at home , my wife has left with the kids and gone to her Mums . The kids would not even acknowledge me when they left . Oliver , the youngest , looked at me , he hesitated , stared at me from the door frame . The look of…
Read MoreI had a client come to me with a list of deaths in his circle attributed to cancer including his own diagnosis a few years ago. Thankfully he is in remission . We wrote a timeline together and mapped out the considerable losses . This picture laid out in front of him was a…
Read More“Oh no , she gave me stink eye , she hates me…. !!” Fear of rejection is a natural human experience tied to our need for social connection and acceptance. It’s rooted in evolution—being part…
Read MoreCounsellor or Psychologist – who do you choose ? There has been a debate for many years over who gives the best service and the difference between a psychologist and a counsellor . There is no short answer to this because it depends . There are so many factors that go into a…
Read MoreI had a client say to me the first time I met him “ Sian , I don’t know who I am ? What is my favourite food ? colour ? What am I good at ? I simply don’t know “. He knew he was a husband, son, Dad brother and…
Read MoreI’m so sorry this happened to you ! Counselling someone who has been sexually assaulted requires sensitivity, empathy, and a trauma-informed approach. Being trauma informed means we recognized the importance and the power that trauma has over our body and brain. Just like the alcoholic knows that the alcohol rules their DNA…
Read MoreHelp we are fighting over our in-laws ! Dealing with over-involved parents can be challenging, especially when trying to set boundaries while still preserving a positive family relationship. Here are some approaches that might help you and your partner manage this dynamic effectively: 1. Communicate as a Team Remember that your created family…
Read MoreHow does toxic guilt show up in my life ? I had a client come to me with a list of deaths in his circle attributed to cancer including his own diagnosis a few years ago. Thankfully he is in remission . We wrote a timeline together and mapped out the considerable losses .…
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