When I was in my 20s , I was a misery bag . I just didn’t bounce back form difficulties and issues in my life like a lot of people around me . I thought I must have missed out on a coping memo that the world had got except…
Repairing After Infidelity When they both entered my garden office ( yes I like to keep it natural LOL ) they both had a quiet and dignified air about them . A wonderful couple who you could tell thought the world of each other but there was deep sadness and regret lingering between them.…
Borderline Personality Disorder The Mum rang me in tears . She had just told her 19-year-old daughter that she had to move out. It tore the Mum apart ,but for her own sanity which was slowly eroding away, she had to do it . Knowing that, at the same time , this young…
Radically Accepting Me As Me My gorgeous funny and sweet client sat in front of me , her eyes wet with tears and her head in her hands . “ I must be a bad person she said , “ I think the vilest thoughts , bestiality , sex with children and violence. They are…
I’m sitting at home , my wife has left with the kids and gone to her Mums . The kids would not even acknowledge me when they left . Oliver , the youngest , looked at me , he hesitated , stared at me from the door frame . The look of pity…
I had a client come to me with a list of deaths in his circle attributed to cancer including his own diagnosis a few years ago. Thankfully he is in remission . We wrote a timeline together and mapped out the considerable losses . This picture laid out in front of him was a stark…
“Oh no , she gave me stink eye , she hates me…. !!” Fear of rejection is a natural human experience tied to our need for social connection and acceptance. It’s rooted in evolution—being part…
Pick Me Pick Me ! Counsellor or Psychologist – who do you choose ? There has been a debate for many years over who gives the best service and the difference between a psychologist and a counsellor . There is no short answer to this because it depends . There are so many factors that…
I had a client say to me the first time I met him “ Sian , I don’t know who I am ? What is my favourite food ? colour ? What am I good at ? I simply don’t know “. He knew he was a husband, son, Dad brother and worker…
I’m so sorry this happened to you ! Counselling someone who has been sexually assaulted requires sensitivity, empathy, and a trauma-informed approach. Being trauma informed means we recognized the importance and the power that trauma has over our body and brain. Just like the alcoholic knows that the alcohol rules their DNA…